Just a little something..

If a man wants you,nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. It is what it is. We have to stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. We have to allow our INTUITION to save us from heartache. We have to stop trying to change ourselves for a relationship that is or not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live our life for a person before we find what makes us truly happy. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend, that's where it starts....don't settle. If we feel like we are being "stringed" along, then mostly likely, we are. We shouldn't stay because we think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself later for staying when things never got any better. The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU. yup..!! YOU!! Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. Ladies, if something is bothering you, speak up. He won't know what's the deal, they aren't that smart. Just know when is the right time to bring it up. Don't attack them with the problem, lay it out. Never let him KNOW everything. he will use it against you LATER. Ladies, we can NOT change a man's behavior. Changes comes from within. If he don't see whats wrong with the picture, HE don't see it. Don't ever make him feel he is more important that you are..he will take it to his advantage. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. NEVER BORROW SOMEONE ELSE'S MAN!! That's a NO NO! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON YOU. A man will only treat us the way we ALLOW him to treat us. ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS!! just most of em! You should not be the only doing all the bending..compromise is a two way street. Ladies should put more JUST because we are more passionate. NO. Take the time to heal between relationships, there is NOTHING CUTE ABOUT BAGGAGE. Deal with the issues before pursuing a new relationship. Don't look for someone to complete you, a relationship consists of TWO WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimenary, not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right. Make him miss you sometimes... =] When a man always know where you are, and you are always readily available to him, he take it for GRANTED. What I'm trying to say i guess is, don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others..

got it from a friend...

i was supposed to blog about my bday weekend but i couldnt..another time when im in a happier mood i guess. but yeah...i think this is worth reading..

After awhile, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
You learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security.
You begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises.
You begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult and not the grief of a child.
You learn to build your roads on today because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans. After awhile, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers..
You learn that you can really endure, that you are really strong, and you really do have worth..
- Anonymous

hope you guys enjoyed it..